From birth to death communication is an intrinsic part of the human experience. For each of us, our first lessons in communication come from our parents. They bring us into the world, helpless and dependent on them for everything. In those early years, they teach us and prepare us for the start of our school years.
In school, children learn more verbal communication, as well as tone, posture, gestures, and facial communication. Communication becomes interpersonal. One step over the threshold on that first day of school changes everything.
As adults, we often find communication challenging. We experience frustration when people misread us. Today, there is more room for error in communication than ever before because of the digital age and the Internet. How well we understand how to use interpersonal skills are strong predictors of how successful we will be in life.
Interpersonal skills include how we speak, how we look, how well we listen and understand.These are the foundation of communication. Interpersonal communication is why we don’t get a second chance to make a good first impression. Interpersonal communication is complicated, irreversible, inescapable, and contextual.
Think about your childhood. More so, think about your parents and their communication and interactions with each other. Do you see in yourself some of the behaviors learned from your parents? This has nothing to do with their marriage, but with how they handled conflict, and then, how you handle conflict. What communication nuances will your children bring with them to adulthood?
The patterns formed in the early years of life are difficult to change as we mature. We don’t know what our weaknesses are until someone else makes it clear to us. The same is true for our strengths. Negative feedback is hard to take while positive feedback can send us to the stars in glory.
Do you wish your communication skills were better? Think about what good might come to you. Maybe you would get a raise at work, or be noticed by your peers and management team?
It’s nice when people respect you for something that seems as ordinary as conversation, or writing, or speaking to a group. These are not life skills that we are inherently born with. They are however, life skills to learn, not just learn, practice. Truth is, we didn’t get what we needed from our parents to be masters of communication. You owe it to yourself to hone your skills. Learn from a master of communication.